Giving Thanks

After the last of the meat was removed from the turkey, the dishes placed in the dishwasher, left-overs bagged and put in the fridge for tomorrow, I had a few moments to contemplate the day without hungry kids pulling at my sweatshirt. The week had been a rough one with Kim having tooth pain and two root canals within a 4-day period. A couple of kids were coming off illness that kept them home … [Read more...]

You Have a Choice

I was 10 years old when the Mormon church lifted its ban on African Americans holding the priesthood. I was happy yet very confused because I'd been taught at home and in church that God cursed them with black skin because they had not been as valiant before they came to earth. Other people around the world also had dark skin, but only those of African descent were held to the ban. I don't recall … [Read more...]

You Are Not Alone

Leaving your religion can feel like a lonely solo journey. When I decided to halt my activity in the Mormon church I felt Chuck from Castaway, stranded on my own island. Living in a small town in Utah didn't help my feelings of isolation. I joined a couple of Facebook groups full of people who were going or had gone through a similar transition. Many of them were confused, but most were angry. And … [Read more...]

What Mormon Women Get

I was listening to Mormon Stories Podcast yesterday and got to the end of the first episode that covered the latest General Conference. Jamie Handis Handy talks about her role as a woman in the church, and knocks it out of the park. I'm glad that my two daughters won't grow up in a church that sees them as second class citizens. … [Read more...]

Serving a Mormon Mission in Germany

Leaving the MTC for Germany was an exciting time. I'd never been out of the country, and I was headed to a country to teach people about my religion in a language I could barely speak. But I was with a group of people I'd learned to trust and love, and I figured I'd be fine as long as I could have some contact with them and my family. I was assigned to a small town named Siegen which was a … [Read more...]

Preparing to Serve a Mormon Mission

Over the past 6 months I've watched as our oldest daughter went back and forth about which high school to attend. She eventually decided to attend a smaller school that most of her friends will be attending. We discussed the different approaches to academics, orchestra and other after-school activities, but her decision was primarily influenced by friends. Had most of them decided to attend … [Read more...]

My Early Years As A Mormon

I don't remember a time when my parents told me I was a mormon. It was like being American or caucasian. I didn't choose to be either of those, and being a mormon wasn't a choice either. My parents were mormon, so I was mormon. Most of our neighbors in Ogden, Utah were mormon as well. I did have a good friend named Ken Pretti whose family wasn't mormon. I believe they belonged to the Catholic … [Read more...]

Adapt and Refine Your Work

Two and a half years ago I approached the owner of Puget Systems and told him I was moving to Utah. I explained that I wanted to remain with the company, and I proceeded to propose the work I could do 1200 miles away from company headquarters. My goal was to walk out of his office with any answer other than a "no". If I recall correctly, "Let me give it some thought" turned into a "Let's … [Read more...]