Standing Outside the Temple

My grandparents on both sides of my family lived in Bountiful, or about 30 minutes from our home in Ogden, Utah. We visited them often. My grandpa Tingey was the first person I knew who owned an Atari 2600, and I spent many hours sitting on my knees at a wobbly card table playing Asteroids, Combat and Blackjack. While the Tingeys were Mormon, my father's parents were not, and I understood this … [Read more...]

Working Through Beliefs Together

I enjoyed this article written by a women coming to terms with her husband’s change in beliefs. But I wanted to understand him. This was Sean, the man who stood by me during years of clinical depression. The man who pretended to be a dinosaur while he chased our shrieking sons around the room. He wasn’t some heathen. I couldn’t believe that. I wouldn’t believe it. He’d always been a skeptic, … [Read more...]

The High Road

You will be misunderstood. Your point will be lost. The other person will not be ready to hear what you have to say. Never assume a full understanding. You'll be disappointed. Do prepare for the backlash. Don't take it personally. Don't lash out in anger. Do take a break. Go for a walk. Listen to music. And when you're ready, take the high road. I've never … [Read more...]

Mother’s Day Talk

This is a talk I gave on Mother’s Day last year. On this mother’s day, I thought about what I could share with you that would provide meaning and proper respect for the day. As mother’s day approached, I began to think of the many lessons and skills I’ve learned from women and mother’s in my life, and that’s what I’ve decided to share with you today. Gandhi said, “My imperfections and failures … [Read more...]

To Invent Your Own Life’s Meaning Is Not Easy

From the creator of Calvin & Hobbes comes the best thing you’ll read today. Update: The cartoon was created by Gavin Aung Than using words from Bill Watterson. More details about this work here. … [Read more...]

Finding Home

“Doesn’t this feel just like Seattle?” Those were Kim’s words last night as we stood on our front porch and watch the wind whip leaves down our street. For the first times in months, the temperatures dipped into the high 60’s. And yes, it did feel like Seattle minus the $1000 worth electrical bills we rang up over the past two months. In Seattle, we stayed inside due to rain whereas here we … [Read more...]

The Disease of More

I once knew a man who decided he wanted a dog. So he spent months researching various breeds until he finally decided on one. He then found a breeder and paid $400 cash for the dog. Over the next few weeks he bought food, treats, dishes, collars, leashes, toys, grooming tools and lotions to keep the critters away from the new family member. Of course, he didn’t want his dog reproducing with the … [Read more...]

Since Moving to Utah

A few things that have been on my mind the past month since moving from Washington to Utah. One of the best side benefits of moving is not being able to bring everything that’s accumulated in your home over the years. Sure, I’ve had to replace a few items, but starting with a clean slate is good for the mind. I wasn’t looking forward to the 20+ hour drive in the moving van, but being … [Read more...]