Perpetual Interruptions

When is the last time you sat down to discuss a topic with a friend and they gave you their full attention? Did you look at each other eyes and actively listen to each other without being interrupted by a cell phone or email or text message?

Coworkers are the worst offenders. I can’t think of the last time I had a meeting with a coworker when we made it five minutes before his phone rang or someone knocked at the door or an email arrived that couldn’t wait to be read.

When you take that call you tell the person with whom you’re currently conversing “This call is more important than you are”. Have these people heard of voicemail? Who says you have to take the call anyway? The culture at Microsoft is one where people are expected to multi-task which is another way of saying, “Do a mediocre job on a lot of tasks instead of a stellar job on one or two”.

I attended a meeting yesterday with three people and I was the only one who brought along a pad of paper and pen while they all had laptops. I lost count of the number of times someone said, “Can you repeat that?” because they were busying emailing instead of listening. Why schedule a meeting if you’re going to sit there and do email? The next time this happens I’m going to excuse myself and go back to my office. At least in my office I can listen to Pink Floyd.

My four year old daughter has a longer attention span and is a better listener than most people I interact with at work. She will look at me when I talk to her. She won’t look down at her toys or run off to a friend who might have something more interesting to discuss. She’s there – living in the moment.

My grandmother didn’t grow up with a computer or iPod or cell phone. Maybe that’s one reason I love talking with her about anything. She focuses on me and only me and I feel like the most important person in the world. She has a way of tuning out surrounding distractions. I love spending time with her, and I know she will give me her full attention.

What types of children are we raising today when we, through example, show them it’s OK to get up in the middle in a conversation and answer the phone or check our Blackberry or respond to a text message? Just maybe it’s not the Playstation or Xbox or Nintendo games that are the problem rather it’s the adults and our failing to give them our full attention that’s leading to so many kids with ADD.

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  1. I know this is an older post but it’s a great one Brett. I am easily distracted during conversations. Not by a cell phone or an email just by other noises. It’s something that I really have to work at and I hate that. I think it comes from always trying to be in tune to what’s going on with the kids without watching them like a hawk.
    I also have to add Call-waiting to this post. I LOATHE call-waiting. I hate being told “oh hold on a minute” while on the phone with someone. Excuse me?!!!! You are talking to me right now. If it’s that important, just excuse yourself and call me back later. Don’t make me wait for you to see what so-and-so needs to talk to you about. And the worst is when you’re calling long distance. My mom has finally stopped asking me to hang on. I’ve had to tell her several times, “you can call them back when we are done.” And then I remind her at the end of the call.
    Sorry it’s one of my pet peaves!!!! I HATE call-waiting!!!!


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