Child’s Play

The images are nearly impossible to avoid. So are the headlines splattered across many magazines lined up near the checkout counter at the super market. Large fonts in annoying colors at just the right height for my 7 year old daughter to read.

At least the Cosmo cover is hidden so she doesn’t ask me about “His Secret PLEASURE ZONE”.

The one magazine cover topic that bothers me more than the others is the teen pregnancy. Of course, it’s never mentioned in such pedestrian terms. No, we only hear the unique baby name the mother and father-be-be-named later has selected. We get the inside scoop on the thousands of dollars being tossed at a new nursery in the latest trendy colors and fabrics. We see the obligatory but empty Bugaboo stroller just waiting for the photo-op on Rodeo Drive.

My favorite is the picture of the car seat in the back of the Range Rover. How cute is that!?

Fathers are optional. In fact, it’s more exciting when the real father is a mystery. But if that’s not possible we’ll accept narrowing the pool down to two or three sperm donors.

The July 21 cover of Jamie Lynn Spears and her baby is the new standard for making teen pregnancy sound exciting and lots of fun. Check out the tag line:

“Being a mom is the best feeling in the world!”image

Great message this sends to millions of teens also looking to have their own best feelings. Except they won’t have People, US or OK magazine waiting outside the delivery room with a check for a few million enabling the new mom to hire maids, cooks and trainers.

Because the follow up cover photos can’t possibly show a mom with stretch marks or any signs she delivered a baby 10 days ago.

There are 4.25 million new mothers each year in the US.

425,000 are teenagers between the ages of 15 and 19.

– U.S. CENSUS BUREAU

What irks me most is how the responsibilities of raising a child are portrayed in the media as being little more than attending a Build a Bear workshop. Find a guy and you too can enjoy the excitement of playing house with your new baby bear!

Just don’t expect any care packages from Tom and Katie.

The real heroes are the mothers raising children away from the the cameras and airbrushed photo sessions. They don’t outsource the stuff that’s not fun.

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Sunday Evening

Sunday is my favorite day of the week. It’s the only day of the week where I don’t feel pressured to do activities away from my family which allows me to reflect on the stuff that matters most in my life.

A good friend invited me to stand in the circle for his daughter’s baby blessing this morning. His daughter, Eve, is only a couple months old and what a cutie she is. I commented how much I enjoyed her tiny white dress and was told it was the same dress her mother was blessed in. I felt honored to be invited to be part of this experience.

After the blessing was over I returned to my seat to listen to the rest of the meeting. I noticed a family sitting in front of me with 4 young, energetic children. I know the father through our church basketball league and have spoken with him a number of times when I took the train into Seattle.

But what I want to say about this family is how impressed I was at the love they show each other. Their oldest daughter is dealing with some medical challenges although that doesn’t quite describe the seriousness of the matter so I’ll link to their family website where you can read more.

We all face challenges in life and how we deal with them is a good indicator of our character. I have a lot to learn in this area. But I found strength and hope reading through their blog. I am amazed at how they are able to maintain such a positive spirit. I find them inspiring.

A Marvelous Night

My father is a morning person if there is such a thing. So is my brother. Both love going to bed early and waking early. Both do their best work in the mornings.

Growing up, my dad was gone every morning before I got out of bed. When he’d return home to see me walking around in a groggy stupor he’d remind me how much he’d already accomplished. I was impressed. But not enough to have grabbed breakfast or got myself in the shower. What’s the hurry anyway?

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Picture of Seattle at Night by CJM

I don’t know how many times I’ve heard people refer to people like me as slackers, night owls or weirdos. “Early to bed, early to rise…”

And I used to believe them.

But I’m done apologizing for not being a morning person when I do my best work at night.

I love the night. Van Morrison had it right all along.

I don’t know when it started. Maybe when I was in college which had more to do with attending school during the day, working afternoons leaving evenings as the only time to tackle homework.

But it wasn’t until I moved to Seattle that I started to embrace the night. By the fall of 1995, I worked for a local ISP located in downtown Seattle. When the noon to 9 pm shift become available I grabbed it. But I don’t recall ever leaving the office when my shift was over. These were the early days of the internet and having a high speed connection was a luxury. I stayed at work surfing the web and designing my website. It wasn’t uncommon to leave my office at 3 or 4 am. If the night is darkest just before dawn then my timing is impeccable.

It was only a 15 minute walk from my office to my apartment on Capitol Hill. But I was in no hurry to get home. I loved the cool night breeze on my face. If I was lucky there’d be a light mist in the air. I’d pass the bakeries emitting delectable scents into the neighborhood. I could almost taste the cinnamon rolls or scones with orange icing drizzled on top. I’d see men and women tossing large bundles of newspapers at the steps of large buildings. I watched clouds of steam hover above the streets.

I savored the delicate soundtrack of the night, provided by the birds and rain instead of cars and people. It’s a side of Seattle few people experience.

Those were magnificent times. My neighbors didn’t know if I was coming from or going to work. Keeps them guessing.

Working a later schedule doesn’t exactly work well with children, so I’ve had to learn to adapt my schedule. But I still look forward to Friday and Saturday nights when I can stay up late and read or blog or walk outside off my deck and feel the cool late night breeze under moonlight.

Just look at what I’d miss if I were in bed like all the productive people?

The night walked down the sky with the moon in her hand” – Frederick L. Knowles

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My Rebounding Team

A few sunny days daisy chained together means the kids have begged and dragged me to spend time with them in the front yard. They like to ride bikes around the little island at the end of our street, run through the sprinklers and play basketball.

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Anna Lynn before she wore down chasing my errant shots

Well, they can’t really shoot baskets but they think they can. The island is home to a regulation size basketball hoop and the kids are mesmerized by it. Luca is strong enough to granny toss the ball through the hoop maybe 5% of the time. Lincoln and Anna can’t get it close but that doesn’t stop them from trying. Most of their shots ricochet off the curb and smack into the neighbors Lexus (it’s Canadian) van. Serves them right for parking it on the curb in front of our house!

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Lincoln’s helmet speaks volumes to my shot making ability

I like to shoot baskets as well and I’ve devised a plan whereby I can shoot nonstop for while: I agree to go into the front yard if the kids will act as rebounders. I shoot the ball and the kids go running after it. I see how quickly they can return the ball to me. They love it. I love it. It’s a win/win.

Some days I’m draining threes and I get a lot of shots off because they kids don’t have to run as much. But today I was tossing bricks which means the kids got a workout. I knew I was having an off day when Lincoln went to the garage to retrieve a helmet.

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5 of My Favorite Freebies

  1. The Business Brickyard – This is a wonderful little book that’s available for download in PDF format. Tiny chunks of great advice! Yes, it’s geared to those in business but the topics and lessons are varied and should interest a wide audience. I loved the chapter called “Singles and Doubles”.
  2. Favtape – My favorite mashup service. Just feed it your Pandora URL or Last.fm username and it creates an instant mixtape you can share. Here’s a link to mine.
  3. CCleaner – Consider it the Dust Buster for those times when the party is over but there’s chips and bottles scattered around your apartment. You will not believe how many programs leave your computer littered with crap. This finds the hidden dirt and takes it to the curb.
  4. Killer Wallpaper – So you cleaned up your PC with CCleaner but want to spiff up your desktop a bit? Check out this amazing collection wallpaper to suit many screen sizes and tastes. I enjoy looking through the collection geared to those with dual monitors.
  5. Free Flash Games – I found this site a long time ago and my kids love it. The music and games are fantastic. This one is my favorite.

Rogue Wave-athon

My brother told me Rogue Wave a while back. I’d never heard of them before but he sent me this mp3 and they immediately moved onto my playlist. I’ve probably listened their music as much as any group this year.

While California is still my favorite song from them I really like this one called Lake Michigan.

Link to Lake Michigan lyrics

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